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Staff List

Mentoring Scheme

Counselling

Student Well-Being

External Help

Self-Help Articles

Sharing by ex-student Lim Joo Hong

Balancing the Demands of JC Life

7 Study Tips you need to survive Junior College

9 Tips on Planning a Revision Time Table

Anxiety and Panic

How to Handle Exam Anxiety

How to Reduce Stress

Other Study Techniques and Time Management

Procrastination

Self Esteem

Personal Resiliency Builders

Anger Management

Conflict Management

Eating Disorders

Feeling Homesick

Mentoring Scheme

The Mentoring Scheme is an enrichment programme to cater to the total development of the academically able students.

Activities include leadership camps, personal grooming workshops, communication skills courses and communication service projects. Part of the programme also aims to deepen the students' political awareness. This is done through observing Parliamentary proceedings as well as sitting in the MP's Meet-The-People Sessions.

Through these and other exciting activities like debates, quizzes and job attatchments, Mentoring Scheme students benefit by discovering and realizing their potential above and beyond the pursuit above and beyond the academic excellence.

       

Counselling

Students with personal or academic problems may approach their Civics Tutors or any one of the Teacher-Counsellors for help at Drop In_N, which is on the ground floor under LT2. They may also approach the Full-time School Counsellor, Mrs Lee Li Lian at her given timeslots (see table below). You can also use the eCounselling email service to send a message to Mrs Lee. Problems brought to the attention of the Counsellors are kept in strictest confidence and no information is divulged without the consent of the student concerned, unless there is the danger of physical harm. When necessary, advice and assistance will be sought from external agencies.

Below is the schedule of consultation hours. Students are welcome to drop in to make an appointment.

Consultation Hours
WeekdayTimeConsultant
Monday 1000 - 1050 Mr Tearle Cheng
1140 - 1230 Mr Chee Yu Ping
1300 - 1700 Mrs Lee Li Lian
Tuesday 0800 - 1300 Mdm Chan Chee Har
1300 - 1700 Mrs Lee Li Lian
Wednesday 1000 - 1050 Mr Terence Ong
1100 - 1630 Mdm Chan Chee Har
Thursday 0745 - 0840 Miss Sherry Soh
1000 - 1050 Ms Angeline Quek
1300 - 1700 Mrs Lee Li Lian
Friday 0840 - 0930 Mr Ho Foo Him
0930 - 1020 Mrs Chang-Moh Fong Yoke
1140 - 1230 Ms Tay Sen Ai
1300 - 1700 Mrs Lee Li Lian


       

Student Well-Being

The Student Welfare and Student Development Departments have compiled a Lifeskills Programme package for the Civics Programme to assist students in personal and character development. In addition, students are taught study skills, time management skills, communication and relationship skills, how to prepare for working life and other skills which are integral to social development. The programme is complemented by regularly scheduled talks and workshops given by invited experts on topics such as confidence in public speaking and stress management as part of the Personal Enrichment Programme (PEP). Additional resources are available in the College Library and the ParenTeen Centre. The ParenTeen Centre also conducts Coffee Talks for small groups of students to discuss on topics that are close to their hearts, eg. the challenges of adulthood.

       

External Help

External Help
Crisis Hotlines & Services AgenciesTelephone / TimeWho Is It For
1 Samaritans of Singapore (SOS) 1800-2214444 (24 hrs)
email: pat@samaritans.org.sg
(reply within 48 hrs)
For anyone facing a crisis
2 Care Corner 800 Hotline 1800-3535800
10 am - 10 pm
( Closed on Public Holidays )
For Mandarin-speaking people who need help
3 Pupils Line 1800-2812522
9 am - 5 pm ( Mon to Fri )
For pupils who face problems & need someone to talk to
4 Teensline 64420918
2.30 - 6 pm , 7 - 9.30 pm
( Mon - Fri )
For teens aged 12 - 20 years who have problems & need someone to talk to
5 TOUCH Youth Services 1800-3772252
10 am - 10 pm ( Mon - Sat )
For teens aged 12 - 20 years who have problems & need someone to talk to
6 Befrienders of Youth 62564440
9 am - 5 pm ( Mon - Fri )
For youths with any problems & need someone talk to
7 Pregnancy Crisis service 63399770 / 64880281
9 am - 5 pm ( Mon - Sat )
Phone & face to face counseling for teenage girls
8 Family Service Centre (26 FSCs in S'pore) 1800-8380100 Will direct callers to the nearest FSC
Individual, marital or family casework & counseling, family life education, information & referral.
9 Ministry of Community Development : Child Welfare & Family Welfare Sections 1800-2586378 (CWS)
1800-2586598 (FWS)
8.30 am - 5 pm ( Mon - Fri )
8.30 am - 1 pm ( Sat )
Help for the abused child & family
10 The Salvation Army 62737202
8.30 am - 6 pm ( Mon - Fri )
Provides counselling services
11 Singapore Planned Parenthood Association (SPAA) 1800-7758582
8.30 am - 5 pm ( Mon - Fri )
Help young people & adults deal with sexuality-related problems & concerns
12 Counselling & Care Centre 65366366
8.30 am - 5 pm ( Mon - Fri )
Counselling for psychological, sexual, marital & family problems

       

Sharing by Ex-Student Lim Joo Hong

Joo Hong was a second-intake ASEAN Scholar (02/03 batch) who joined the college in May 2002. He was a very focused and diligent student. Within half a year, he topped his class with 4 Distinctions in the Promotional Exam. He obtained 4 Distinctions again in the Preliminary Exam and 7 Distinctions in the GCE 'A' Level Exam (4 A's for Maths, Further Maths, Chemistry and Physics, A1 for Chinese AO, B3 for GP and Distinctions for Maths and Physics 'S'-papers). He attributed his excellent results to hard work. He was a very helpful, modest and appreciative student who was well-liked by both his peers and teachers.

Joo Hong did not come from a well-to-do family background. He was born in Sabah but moved to Penang some years later after his father passed away. He came back to Singapore to work soon after his 'A' Level Exam (end of December) to try to earn money to support himself and to save up for his university education. A few months after the release of 'A' Level results, he was awarded a scholarship by SempCorp Industries (a big corporate in Singapore) to study Chemical Engineering at the Imperial College in UK. He did very well in his first year's exam last year.

I think Joo Hong is a good role model for all of you. I requested him to share his experiences by writing an article. He has kindly written the following article sharing his experience as an ASEAN scholar, his scholarship interviews and life at Imperial College. I hope it will help to inspire you.

Mrs Tag

ASEAN

Life as an ASEAN scholar in Singapore is never an easy one. The high requirements to meet, i.e. to keep up with excellent results to get the scholarship renewed each time after exam make the title 'ASEAN scholar' an even more daunting one. Not to mention other obligations like CCA's, SAT, project work etc. Is the ASEAN scholarship a hoax to add more misery to my life?

Yet, life is not always as bad as what you initially think. You are given the challenges because someone knows that you can handle it. After everything that you have gone through, when you look back and reflect, you would be amazed - I actually managed to go through everything!

I was one of the 6 second intake ASEAN scholars in TJC, i.e. I came half a year later than the rest. Life appeared to be really stressful initially for it was the first time every subject was taught in English. I was also lagging behind the rest by 6 months. I did not even know what partial fractions were! Is numerator the one upstairs? Or is it the denominator?

Fortunately, we had a bunch of great tutors who never hesitated to travel the extra miles to ensure that we were able to cope with the workload at that time - to catch up with the work left behind half a year ago as well as the current tutorials. Also, the seniors who were indeed helpful to help us settling down in this new place which seemed alien to us.

In the end, everything went well, albeit with some hiccups in between like some scholars getting conditional renewal, the SARS outbreak in 2003, hostel conflicts etc. Even more gladly, no one in the end regret being an ASEAN scholar for what we attain eventually is not only academic excellence, but also beautiful friendships (we still keep in touch till now) as well as invaluable student life experience in Singapore.

In the light of everything that I have gone through, I personally find the following few points worth-sharing:

  • Consistency i.e. time management is undeniably the most crucial factor. Plan well ahead and complete the tutorial sheets as early as you can. The best is to have your tutorial on par with the lecture (though this had never occurred to me before). Get the tutorials done over the weekend and you can have a peaceful sleep every night throughout the week, as you need to burn the midnight oil during weekdays anymore. Bear in mind that the tutorial sheets are not meant to make your life miserable.

  • Pay attention in lectures. This is a hard one, especially when you are sleep-deprived. Try to have something in your mouth, e.g. sweets, sour plum or even drink water to keep you awake. No matter how boring the lecture is, there are still some benefits that you can reap off the lecture. Try to imitate the lecturers and you can remember even more stuff.

  • Being hardworking might result in you being stigmatized as a 'Kiasu' person. However, I do not find working hard for the sake of your own result is a sign of 'Kiasuism'. Even though it is, there is still nothing wrong with it. You are just striving for your own future and academic excellence.

  • Some might say that staying in the room all day studying constitute a sad life. I was wondering which one is sadder - studying in the room now and strive for an excellent result, or studying in the room later after getting a conditional renewal, i.e. scholarship on the verge of termination.

  • I always think that there are two types of smart people in this world - inherently smart or diligently smart. If you think that you fall into the former category, you are a genius and you need minimum work to be successful. Unfortunately, most of us fall into the latter category, which means that smartness comes only after diligence. I would hence say that there is no other way to success apart from being hardworking, diligent and consistent. There comes in my favourite quote from Aristotle - the root is bitter, but the fruits are sweet (exclude lemon).

    SembCorp

    At first, I was in doubt if I should apply for any overseas universities. A friend of mine came up and told me to just apply in order to not let myself regret in the future. Eventually, I did and I got a conditional offer from Imperial College.

    But an offer without scholarship meant nothing to me, for it was simply too costly to further educations in the United Kingdom. That was why I applied for a few scholarships after my preliminary exams, even though I knew that the application process was really exhausting.

    My application for the SembCorp scholarship began with filling an online application form in their website. It proceeded with 3 rounds of rigorous interviews and a tea session during which I was asked to write an essay about why I wanted to be a SembCorp scholar.

    After going through all these procedures, I personally find it worthwhile to mention the following points especially when tackling the interviews:

  • Be prepared - Research about the organization before going into the interview room. Find out the various business units that the organization is operating and if possible what they are doing exactly. Inappropriate questions like 'How much will I be getting every month as my allowance?', 'How long do I have to work here?', 'What is my starting salary?' must not be asked as they would only reflect your ignorance and how materialistic you are. Instead, ask sensible questions like, 'Which is the business unit that is sponsoring the scholars this year?', 'Is lateral shift (from technical side to management side) applicable to scholars?', 'In what direction is the company going in the future?' etc. These would make you sound keen in obtaining the scholarship. Interviewers are generally looking for scholars who can contribute to the company and make their investment in the scholar worthwhile. Hence, it would be useful to ponder how you can contribute to the company when you are serving the bond.

  • Know the direction that the company is going in the future - usually ask the scholarship officer/coordinator. I was lucky because I knew that SembCorp was looking into the polymerization industry in the next few years and hence they needed chemical engineers and that was what I had applied for. I put this key point in the essay that I was asked to write during the tea session and it granted me the third and final interview.

  • Be honest. Interviewers are very experienced personnel who have seen numerous applicants. There is no way that a lie can get passed them without being identified as a lie. They are looking for someone with sincerity and thus, be as honest as possible and do not make up any baseless traits in you. I was asked if I had read 'San Guo Yan Yi' (Romance of the Three Kingdoms) before and I honestly answered 'Sorry, I have not.' because I knew that I would get into trouble if I said yes. But, eventually, it was always good to display some minimal knowledge about it. I outlined the main characters in the legend with some basic storylines.

  • Interview experience and skills. This is something that cannot be acquired overnight. Some people actually applied for numerous scholarships so that they can attend as many interviews as possible to gain the experience. Common courtesy like shaking hands before and after the interviews ought to be learned. However, avoid being too pretentious as this annoys the interviewers.

  • Sound mature. I was asked about the last book that I read. I answered Zhang Manjuan's 'Hai Shui Zheng Lan' instead of 'Harry Potter V' for obvious reasons. Also, I was asked if I would be willing to further my education in China. Although I was a bit reluctant in doing so, knowing that China would be the next global big thing, I still gave a positive answer which sounds like, 'it would be a great opportunity to be in one of the top universities in the world, for Qinghua and Jiaotong Universities are well known for their scholastic students. I wouldn't mind going there.'

  • Be appropriately humorous at times. I was asked if I could foresee myself in a labsuit. Once again for obvious reasons, I gave a positive answer, 'Yes, I could foresee myself in a blue labsuit, working in a factory with a big bulging belly when I hit 40 years old.' The panel burst into laughter.

  • Lastly, I must say that I got this scholarship because I was really lucky to get a bunch of nice and friendly interviewers. I personally enjoyed the last round of interview, though it was with the Deputy President of the whole SembCorp group and the CEO's of the various business units and the head of scholarship department. They were so nice that I did not actually feel that I was in the interview. It felt more like a chatting sessions with some intermittent laughter in between. When I got a call from SembCorp in the same afternoon, my dream of furthering my education in Imperial College come true.

    Imperial College

    Life in Imperial College really depends on what course you are in. For me in Chemical Engineering, life is slightly more relaxing than that in TJC. No CCA obligations, no PE and of course, no continuous tutorials and lectures.

    It is a place that I get to meet people all around world - England, Germany, Italy, Spain, Poland, Cyprus, China, Nigeria and of course, Malaysia and Singapore. It would be amazing to know that one common language can bring so many people together. And of course, knowing so many people from different places would make traveling much economical and easier.

    It is also a place that all life skills learned in school come in handy. Cooking and doing laundry have become daily routines at home as eating out and going to the launderette is unforgivably expensive in London. Not to mention, to plan my daily schedule properly so that I put every moment in my life in use.

    I also manage to travel to a few European countries for holidays, like Spain, Belgium, Netherlands etc. Though they are just short and economical trips, it is always good to take a break off the jungle concrete of London. Traveling has become a crucial 'chore' to do whenever it comes to holidays. How often do I get to come to Europe?

    There are two more years down the road before I graduate and start serving my bond with SembCorp. That means another two years of student life and I would have to join the workforce thereafter, flipping over to another page of my life.

    Written by Lim Joo Hong (2006)

           

    Balancing the Demands of JC Life

    "So many things to do; so little time!" is a comment often uttered by JC Students. The challenge is to succeed in riding on the JC experience and not lose oneself in the whirl of events and activities.

    For tips on how to live JC life to the hilt, read on...

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    Adapted from: Psychological and Guidance Services Branch - Ministry of Education - 2003

           

    7 Study Tips you need to survive Junior College

    1. Make a review of the lecture notes daily
    Highlight the major points of the lecture. Create outlines, charts, flashcards, timelines, and concept maps to help you visualize relationships. Think back to the points stressed by the lecturer and jot down any questions you might have.

    2. Complete your tutorial problems or assignment in advance
    Get to know your tutors. If you are having problems with a subject, talk it over with your tutor as soon as you can.

    3. Find at least one or two friends in each class to study with
    Studies show that students who study with someone are better motivated and achieve better grades.

    4. Make use of resources in college
    Use the library, internet or other learning aids regularly to help with your studies.

    5. Set goals
    Goals give your life, and the way you spend your time, direction. Set target grades for each subject which are realistic and achievable.

    6. Manage your time effectively
    Make a list of all the things you need to do daily. Divide your workload into manageable chunks. Prioritize. Schedule your time realistically. Stick to your deadlines.

    7. Reward yourself
    Even for small successes, celebrate achievement of goals. Promise yourself a reward for completing each task, or finishing the total job. Doing so will help you maintain the necessary balance in life.

           

    9 Tips on Planning a Revision Time Table

    1. Set Goals.
    Goals give your life, and the way you spend your time, direction. Set target grades for each subject which are realistic and achievable.

    2. Spend time planning and organizing
    Using time to think and plan a revision time table is time well-spent. In fact, if you fail to take time for planning, you are, in fact, planning to fail. Decide which subjects and which topics you will revise in each session in a day. Avoid hard subjects in the afternoon.

    3. Be Flexible
    Allow time for interruptions and distractions. With this time, you will have the flexibility to handle interruptions and the unplanned "Emergency"

    4. Consider your Biological Prime Time
    This is the time of day when you are at your best. Are you a "morning person" or a "night owl"? Planning to use this time of day for your priorities (if possible) is effective time management.

    5. Do the right thing right
    Draw up a list of topics you plan to revise each day. As you read your notes, use a highlighter pen, picking out the most useful points. Make notes on a card or in a notebook, including the important points from each section.

    6. Be Creative
    Use a variety of revision methods until you find what's best for you. Try revising with a friend, test each other by asking questions from exam papers or try to answer the questions under exam conditions. Use pictures and diagram as ways to remember things.

    7. Conquer Procrastination
    Do it! Move it! Make it happen! No one ever sat on their way to success. Give a copy of your timetable to someone so they can help you stick to it and put a copy on your wall so you can keep track of what you are supposed to be doing and when.

    8. Learn to say "NO"
    Such a small word - and so hard to say. Learn to say no to interruptions or trivial tasks which do not have long term benefits for you. Focusing on your goals may help.

    9. Reward yourself
    Even for small successes, celebrate achievement of goals. Promise yourself a reward for completing each task or finishing the total job. Then keep your promise to yourself and indulge in your reward. Doing so will help you to maintain the necessary balance in life.

           

    Anxiety and Panic

    Many situations or activities, such as moving and adapting to a new environment or speaking before a large audience, make us anxious or apprehensive. In college, many students experience difficulty trying to adjust and cope with their studies. Others find themselves caught up in problematic relationships.

    While a moderate level of anxiety is helpful and could help us achieve better results (e.g. the flow of adrenaline a sprinter experiences at the starting block helps him run faster), an overly-high level of anxiety can overwhelm and debilitate us. In extreme cases, it can cause panic attacks and we can become counter-productive as a result.

    If we control that anxiety, however, we can make it work for us. Here are some coping strategies:
    • Focus your energy on rehearsing the task (in your head or otherwise).
    • Consciously put a stop to negative thoughts running through your head by replacing them with positive and productive ones.
    • Learn to relax. Don't expect to be perfect and don't judge yourself too harshly. Put things in their proper perspective; the world is not going to end even if you foul up your presentation.
    • Stop worrying about how others will view you; instead, focus on the task at hand.
    • Seek advice and speak to a close friend, family member, and tutor or college counsellor; perhaps they can help you put things in perspective.
    • Your civics tutor would be more than happy to introduce you to the counselor should you request for any.
    A day of worrying is more exhausting than a day of work.
    - Anonymous


    Make the most of the best and the least of the worst.
    - Robert Louis Stevenson


    Useful Website: http://www.counsel.ufl.edu/brochure.asp?include=brochures/anxiety_how_to_cope_with_it.brochure

           

    How to Handle Exam Anxiety

    Exam Anxiety
    Most students experience a bit of nervousness going into a test or exam. Being "up" for an exam can be a useful motivator if anxiety is reduced to a manageable level; but too much nervousness interferes with a student¡¯s exam performance.

    Distinguishing Anxiety
    Firstly, distinguish between rational or irrational anxiety. If your anxiety is a direct result of ill-preparedness, then consider it a typical, rational reaction. If your anxiety is a result of uncertainty and low self-confidence even though you have adequately prepared, then your reaction is an overreaction that may result in physical (stomach upset) or mental ("blank out") symptoms that are irrational.

    Tips to handle exam anxiety

    Preparation Can Help
    Preparation is the best way to learn material well, which builds confidence to abate rational anxiety.

    • Study early and often. Frequently study your notes in small chunks as they are added to throughout the semester. Don't wait to look at them again the day before the test.
    • Get a study buddy with whom you can share and synchronize class notes. Hold each other accountable for studying and quiz each other on test material.
    • Avoid cramming for an exam. Trying to master a one to two year's worth of material in a few days will definitely produce anxiety.
    • Practice how you play. Study in the same room in which you have class. Also, take an exam paper from a previous year to simulate the exam environment. Familiarize yourself to the exam material and environment.
    • Study with a plan. Collect all relevant course notes and texts you need for the test and schedule a study plan over course of a week that breaks up the material. Reviewing all of the material in one sitting is less effective.

    Changing Your Attitude
    Build confidence and performance with an improved perspective; this can actually help you enjoy the examination and testing experience.

    • Self Talk. Deflect any self-defeating statements such as "Everyone else in the class is smarter and faster than I am"; "I always mess up on tests"; "I'm not cut out for school". Dictate your negative thoughts and refute each one with a positive statement. Encourage yourself as you would a good friend. It's healthful to program your mind for success instead of for failure.
    • Be reasonable. Don't overplay the importance of a grade, for it is not a measure of your self-worth and it does not predict your future success.
    • Refrain from thinking of yourself in irrational, all-or-nothing terms.
    • There will be others. An exam is only an exam - there will be others in the grand scheme of life.
    • You should feel good about yourself if you believe you studied enough; a positive attitude has a positive impact on performance.

    Taking Care of Yourself

    • Take care of your body. Continue with your regular exercise, good eating habits, and social activities - all contribute to your emotional and physical well-being. A healthy body is a healthy mind.
    • Sleep. Research has shown that a good night's sleep restores and enhances your memory bank.

    What to do on the Day of the Exam?

    • Avoid classmates who generate anxiety and tend to upset your stability.
    • If waiting for the test causes anxiety, distract yourself by reading a magazine or newspaper, listening to music, or taking deep breaths - last minute cramming will cloud your mind and generate anxiety.
    • If you are prone to "caffeine jitters", refrain from drinking coffee beforehand. Even people who are used to drinking coffee may feel light headed and jittery. Start your day with a moderate breakfast.

    Useful Website: http://www.counsel.ufl.edu/brochure.asp?include=brochures/test_anxiety.brochure

           

    How to Reduce Stress

    Many stresses can be changed, eliminated, or minimized. Here are some things you can do to reduce your level of stress:
    • Become aware of your own reactions to stress.
    • Focus on your good qualities and accomplishments.
    • Recognize and accept your limits. Remember that you are unique and different.
    • Avoid unnecessary competition.
    • Have a hobby or two. Have time to relax and have fun.
    • Exercise regularly.
    • Eat a balanced diet daily.
    • Have enough rest and sleep.
    • Talk with friends or someone you can trust about your worries/problems.
    • Learn to use your time wisely and set priorities.
    • Set SMART goals.
    • When studying for an exam, study in short blocks and gradually lengthen the time you spend studying. Take frequent short breaks.
    • Practise relaxation techniques. For example, whenever you feel tense, slowly breathe in and out for several minutes.

           

    Other Study Technqiues and Time Management

  • Goal Setting
  • Time Management 1
  • Time Management 2
  • For other Study Techniques and Time Management, please click on the following links:

           

    Procrastination

    Procrastination is the avoidance and delaying of doing a task which needs to be done. This commonly involves feelings of guilt, inadequacy, self-disgust, stress and depression. In the long run, a person who procrastinates tends to be an underachiever who lacks confidence and self-esteem.

    When faced with a daunting task, we sometimes try to disguise our avoidance of the task by keeping ourselves busy working at other tasks that simply do not contribute towards the main goal or important goal.

    Why do people procrastinate?

    Reasons vary but frequently, people procrastinate because they feel overwhelmed by the task at hand; sometimes, this might be due to their own perfectionist tendencies and unrealistic expectations. People who procrastinate spend time worrying about the task rather than actually working at it.

    For some others, procrastination results from their inability to prioritise, difficulty in concentrating on a task or simply knowing they will be bored by the task. Others procrastinate because they are unsure of what the expected end result is.

    To overcome procrastination:
    • Make a list of everything that you have to do.
    • Eliminate unimportant tasks.
    • Rank the remaining ones in order of urgency/importance.
    • Make your tasks meaningful (e.g. try to evaluate the importance of the task by considering the ways it affects your life or those around you).
    • Consult others to find out more about what is expected of the task.
    • Begin tackling the more urgent/important tasks first.
    • Set realistic goals for yourself.
    • Promise yourself a reward if your goal is achieved.
    Mr Meant-To

    Mr Meant-To has a comrade,
    And his name is Didn't-Do.
    Have you ever chanced to meet them?
    Have they ever called on you?
    These two fellows live together
    In the house of Never Win,
    And I'm told that it is haunted
    By the ghost of Might-Have-Been.

    - Anonymous


    Useful Website: http://or.essortment.com/procrastination_rhfp.htm

           

    Self Esteem

    This is one's opinion of oneself. It results from various life experiences and most importantly, affects our ability to deal with life and be happy.

    Rejection by peers, unfaithfulness of a boyfriend or girlfriend, death of someone close, being unable to be as 'beautiful' as media suggests we should be, or even having come from a family that is less well-off than those of peers, could potentially be experiences that lower one's self-esteem.

    In college, students often find that applying the same amount of hard work and strategies no longer helps them excel academically. Some students begin to have doubts about their own abilities.

    Since self-esteem is an opinion, it tends to fluctuate according to experiences. Positive ones tend to improve a student's self-esteem while the opposite is true of negative experiences.

    How to avoid having low self-esteem:

    The second best thing to be is to have an accurate idea of your abilities. That way, you avoid having an overly-inflated ego and avoid suffering from negative effects of having a low self-esteem.

    What are these 'negative effects'? People with low self-esteem tend to have a distorted view of what people think of them. For example, they tend to assume that their opinion does not matter to those around them and expect that people have the same low opinion of them as themselves. As a result, they have a tendency to be socially-withdrawn.

    If you have low self-esteem, you should try to make an effort to join in with others, say for meals or for chats. The social interaction will reveal that most people are actually more accepting and forgiving than expected. Opening yourself up to a trusted family member, friend, tutor or counselor is a good idea. Don't assume that you are not important.

    So what is the 'best thing'? Well, can you bear being ordinary? Do you believe that you don't have to be capable, intelligent or beautiful to be worth something?

    The truth is, while you might not be a supermodel or a rocket scientist, you are worth something simply because you are you. We all have different gifts and though some gifts are less valued by society than others, this does not make a person worth less than that of another.

    Besides, the day might come when you say encouraging words to a broken hearted, help a fallen stand up again, empty your wallet for the hungry, dance with joy in the rain, fill your heart with love for someone or make a really tough stand for what you really believe in. In those moments, you know you are worth something - we all are.

    Take good care of yourself physically and emotionally. Exercise, spend some time on your hobbies, make new friends and learn to laugh even when things are not perfect. Don't punish yourself when you fail - everybody fails!

    What Would You Be?

    If you'd never been born, well then what would you be?
    You might be a fish? Or a toad in a tree!
    You might be a doorknob! Or three baked potatoes!
    You might be a bag full of hard green tomatoes!
    Or worse than all that - you might be a WASN'T!
    A WASN'T has no fun at all. No, he doesn't.
    A WASN'T just isn't. He just isn't present.
    But you - you ARE YOU! And now, isn't that pleasant?

    Today you are you! That is truer than true!
    There is no one alive who is you-er than you!
    Shout loud, "I am lucky to be what I am!
    Thank goodness I'm not just a clam or a ham!
    Or a dusty old jar of sour gooseberry jam!
    I am what I am! That's a great thing to be!
    If I say so myself, 'HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME'"

    - Dr Seuss (Theodore Geisel)


    Useful Websites: http://www.barksdale.org/Evaluation/eval69.html
    Useful Websites: http://www.heartsandminds.org/quotes/quotes.htm

           

    Personal Resiliency Builders

    Find out what are the individual qualities that facilitate resiliency at the following website:

    http://www.resiliency.com/htm/build.htm

           

    Anger Management

    1. http://www.realhope.com/free_tips.php
    2. http://www.sensiblepsychology.com/improving_anger.htm

           

    Conflict Management

    1. http://web.singnet.com.sg/~hoggy/session6.htm
    2. http://www.nus.edu.sg/osa/guidance/selfhelp/conflicts.html

           

    Eating Disorders

    Today, media bombards us with ideas that we should all be beautiful, rich and successful. These past decades have seen a great increase in the number of people suffering form bulimia and anorexia.

    But eating disorders are not simply a result of human vanity. They are an outward expression of internal confusion and emotional pain. This emotional distress is often related to negative perceptions of self and feelings of being unable to improve oneself. Food intake in this case, is used inappropriately as a way of taking control.

    Anorexia

    Anorexic people starve themselves with the aim of losing weight to a point which others would consider them to be very thin. With their own distorted perceptions of their weight, size and shape, anorexic people don't see that they are thin.

    The longer an anorexic person suffers from the condition, the more difficult it is to tackle the problem. In severe cases, hospitalisation may be necessary and fatality as a result of anorexia is not unknown.

    Bulimia

    Bulimic people may well maintain their normal weight. However, this condition is characterised by a powerful urge to overeat, and thereafter, a feeling of being out of control. Compensatory behaviour such as purging (self-induced vomiting), misuse of laxatives, diuretics or other medication, fasting, or excessive exercise follows.

    Compulsive eating

    Compulsive eating is characterised by recurrent episodes of binge eating (eating more than is comfortable) and consequent feelings of being out of control. This is followed by distress about over-eating and attempts to control it. Compulsive eaters tend to eat alone in secret, feeling disgusted and guilty after that.

    How to get help?

    Easting disorders are dangerous and in some cases have proven to be fatal. If you suffer from any eating disorders, you are strongly advised to seek help. Look for your Civics Tutor or if you feel more comfortable, look for the college counselor directly who will be able to give you professional advice and help.

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